There was a time when I used to seek approval from just about everywhere. I always needed to have the highest grades, be the fastest on the track, even have the perfect attendance and zero detention records! What people thought mattered to me and I was rather negative about myself. Then life happened. Or more precisely – Transverse Myelitis and Multiple Sclerosis. With the very real possibility of developing the latter and living with and being disabled by the former I’ve become more positive and less tolerant of people’s drama.
For instance, ten years ago on the internet I would have gotten upset by people being douchebags. Now? I block someone the moment they call me passive aggressive (which, by the way, none of you people seem to know the meaning of!). Though the whole “You sound PA” thing is a whole blog series so I’ll move on.
I don’t have the time to pander to other’s sensitivities online, there are just too many of them! Instead I want to be as clear as I can be, blunt – not passive aggressive! – and be positive and productive. When I was a negative (towards self), more tolerant kind of person I found that when I had a bad sort of behaviour almost everyone but me saw it.
In argumentation theory, an argumentum ad populum (Latin for “appeal to the people“) is a fallacious argument that concludes that a proposition is true because many or most people believe it: “If many believe so, it is so.”
These days most people have commented on my positivity. Those who know me say I am more positive and those who barely know me call me a positive person. Thus, when someone says I am not I tend to class these people as the “negs” the “douchebags” and the “avoid at all costs” sort of people. I have zero tolerance for drama now. I cut out family members who were trouble makers and I will block people on IM the moment they show me this behaviour. It used to take me months or even years to do this – now it takes me minutes. I see this as a good thing! Yay for progress!